I had a dream the other night that I was explaining how feng shui works in our lives and homes. And how I explained it goes something like this:
Our homes are physical manifestations of our energy, both visible and invisible. They are fractals of our thoughts, behavior, experiences, and basically, our unconscious, which make up our energy field.
According to the Fractal Foundation,
“A fractal is a never-ending pattern. Fractals are infinitely complex patterns that are self-similar across different scales. They are created by repeating a simple process over and over in an ongoing feedback loop. ”
According to C.G. Jung, in his book, Memories, Dreams, and Reflections, he shares a dream where he realized that his home was a metaphor for his unconscious self-expression.
When we realize that our homes are, often, unconscious symbols and metaphor for our lives, we can start to see how the inner and the outer are not only connected, but are intertwined. They are, simply, a fractal with an “ongoing feedback loop.”
Realizing this, we can look at our homes as outer expressions of our unconscious. How do we feel about our marriage? For starters, check out the bedroom and Romance area of the bagua map. How do we feel about our ability to be successful in our career? Check out the Career area. What is our unconscious saying about our ability to earn a good income? Manage our finances? Look at the front door and Wealth area. Nurture our children and creativity? Check Children and Creativity area.
You get the idea…
It’s not as simplistic as above. We look at more than this when analyzing the feng shui of your home,. But these are good starting points.
We can see how patterns in our homes mimic what we really feel about our lives.
So, what do we do when we see a pattern that we want to shift?
Feng shui can help us break a pattern in our outer world, our homes. If we shift the outer, it gives us the opportunity and opening to break the pattern present in our beliefs, our behavior, and ultimately, in our lives. If we see it, we can bring light to the darkness (or unconscious), and make a decision to change it.
So why doesn’t feng shui work for everyone?
This is the same question that people ask about therapy. If talk therapy works, why doesn’t it work for everyone?
Feng shui doesn’t work for everyone, because we have free will. We can “see” dysfunction, but decide that we are not ready to change it, or out of the desire to not “rock the boat” or feel discomfort, we decide to do nothing.
A few years ago, I had a client that was excited to bring me in for a feng shui consultation. It was a profound consultation, where we uncovered a few self-limiting beliefs and ties to dysfunctional relationships.
The home was outwardly beautiful and manicured. She had hired an interior designer for the inside. It was a show house, to say the least. No clutter, well-maintained, and high-end furnishings. Yet, there were clues to issues that her unconscious was hiding.
As we went through the consultation, she seemed to be resonating with our discussion and I left that consultation feeling very deep, profound changes were afoot.
But rather, she didn’t respond to my follow up emails and eventually unsubscribed from my newsletter.
I understand. I’ve been there before.
When I was going through turmoil in my home life, I went to a therapist who struck more than a few nerves in my unconscious. After a few visits, I stopped going. I wasn’t ready for what she had to say, or what I was being called to do.
I needed to get there, in my own time. The therapy was the start of transformation for me. But my path led me to alternative approaches to self-growth, including astrology, past life regression, dreamwork, to name a few.
So for this client, my consultation was perhaps the start of her journey. She will choose if she wants to pursue more inner work, or not.
Free will reigns!